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How To Be Successful...When Starting Over

Sometimes we need a redo, a fresh start, a clean slate, and other times we are forced to start new. Whether we choose to begin again, or other factors play a part in the change, it is important to acknowledge the fact that change is the only constant in our lives. Some people deal with change better than others. Whether it's transferring to a new place, starting a new job, or embarking on a weight loss journey we are in charge of how we approach change. As someone who was afraid of change, I have learned ways to not only deal, but also thrive in the face of the unfamiliar. So here are my tips and tricks to embrace change. 
If your fear of change stems from the fear of the unfamiliar:Some people are not adventurers, and they are not curious about the world around them. They may be a home body, or have not experienced any other place than where they were born. If your fear of change stems from the fear of the unfamiliar, or the unknown then here are some ways to ease you into your transition.

1. Routine Redo: 
If you thrive on routine, and doing certain things the same way for example you like to go to the grocery store on Mondays, or you purchase your coffee at the same coffee shop every day, then begin by makin tiny changes to your scheduled life. Try a new coffee place just for the sake of trying it. Slowly but surely these tiny changes will make the bigger changes to your schedule easier to manage.
2. Research Therapy:
If you are having a hard time moving someplace new, or vacationing somewhere you have never been look up information on the area. Your fear of change is because you don't know what to expect and it is making you anxious. Calm and soothe your soul by educating yourself. 

If your fear of change stems from your love of the present:
If you find yourself asking, “my life was so good; why did it have to change?” then this means you fear that your future won't measure up to your present, and even your past. You may view your present or past as your golden years. This is a very common fear. Many compare their steady childhoods or steady parts of their life to the windy road ahead.  
1. Watch Midnight In Paris: Strange enough this movie is an amazing remedy for the person who suffers from Golden Age Thinking. Golden Age Thinking is defined as the notion that a different time period is better than the one we’re living in. Without giving too much away, you will feel completely understood by Owen Wilson’s character.

2. Visual Manifestation: What helps me, when I can’t see the road in front of me and all I want to do is look backwards to a time that was easier, is to picture what I want my future to be like. I create the life I wish to have and I visualize it, capture it, like a snapshot in my brain. What will make you happy in the future? Answer this question, then picture it. Having something to strive for makes your future brighter.

If your fear of change stems from the fear of failure:
Sometimes we fear change because we fear we will fail when at our new journey. If we are trying to lose weight and be healthy our little voice may ask us “Why even bother? Remember last time you tried? You couldn’t do it then, why do you think you can do it now?” Here is the best way to quiet down that little voice.

1. Change Your Inner Radio:
If your inner voice isn’t playing the correct tune, then change the station. How? Think about all the positive things that have come into your life. Think about the last job you applied for, earned the interview and the position. Think about the last time you lost weight, even if you gained a little back, you still lost it to begin with. Think about how hard-working you are and why you know you have what it takes to move towards your goals. Think about that yoga move you nailed the other day. Change your inner song, inner voice and you can banish your fear of failure. 

2. Create A Mantra: If thinking about a positive moment in your life does not come easy, then take time in the morning to purposely think of something good about yourself before you leave your bed. Do this every day and eventually it will become second nature. 

I Hope you find success every day.

Stay Lovely,


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